Growing from the Inside Out

Dear Friends,

In this week’s Four Foundations teleseminar session we learned about what it means to ‘Be a Loving Person.’

When I spoke to a dear friend in the 12 step rooms about why it is important to be a loving person, she talked about how it frees us from inner conflict. Here are her words:

“Being a loving person stops the inner wars. When we are in a place where we are willing to be loving to ourselves and others, we can stop the debates inside ourselves. We are doing it for the right reason: namely, because it is what we are called to do as spiritual beings.”

This powerful reason to do be loving, ‘because it is what we are called to do as spiritual beings’ really gets its legs in the definition of being loving and in the how of being loving, which are what we spent the majority of the class discussing.

The lifetime journey of recovery celebrates the importance of being loving, just as it embraces self care, setting boundaries and being supportive of one another. The lovely thing about having these principles to remind us what the basics of recovery are, is that when things get difficult, we can take ourselves through a simple checklist to get our selves back on track.

Okay, what do I need to take care of myself in this situation? What is the loving response? What kinds of boundaries do I need to set? What kinds of support do I need?

If you would like a refresher on the basics or know someone who would benefit from an introductory overview of the family recovery journey, please send them my way. I will welcome them to our next class on the Four Foundations which will be starting later in October.

Check out my website for more details at www.theempowermentcoach.net and go to the 4 Foundations of Recovery link.

The spiral of growth in recovery keeps us coming back to the basics and each time we do, we experience them in a deeper, more meaningful way.

For more on being a loving person, read my blogpost Unconditional Love toward the Addict – Whether You Stay or Go on www.12stepfamily.com

All the best,
Beverly A. Buncher, MA, CEC
Family Recovery Coach
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